REPORT FOR MOLLY POTTER
For: LATE SUMMER OF LIFE (still warm enough for paddling pools)
ATTENDANCE: Full on
TEACHER: All that stuff out there what keeps happening and what she ponders on
SKILL: Being tactful
COMMENT: Molly can be extremely tactful when she's actually trying to be AND concentrating AND has registered that the person she is talking to is unlikely to be able to cope with brutal banter. However, Molly does appear to suffer from a very short brain to mouth fuse and occasionally she manages to find the single most clumsy comment that really either is the epitome of inappropriateness or simply an unintentional twist of a knife and yet still have sincerely never meant to offend. She hates upsetting people - anyone - but especially those she loves and she's got big loving going on.
SKILL: Being assertive
COMMENT: Like most people this would depend on the time, place, mood and those present. She has teetered along the fine line between assertive and aggressive when something had rattled her slightly unpredictable goat (mixed metaphor? Ooo I like those) or someone has peed all over some heart-felt values. But seconds later she can revert to a startled passive blob having a cup of tea, surprised but her own outburst. And then there's usually a giggle. Nearly always a giggle. Giggling is common punctuation for Molly.
She did once get a free meal in a restaurant by complaining...but that wasn't really assertive, the meal took two hours to arrive.
SKILL: Forgiving people that have upset you
COMMENT: Molly can't retain things for very long and she knows that most people she cares about don't really set out to upset...it's usually all just a terrible misunderstanding. And she's crafted at using communication to get to the bottom of those.
SKILL: Explaining how you feel
COMMENT: Molly is gooey inside with emotions. However, when a negative emotion is sparked up, she needs time to process it before she can share it with others. In fact it's best if she doesn't react in the height of emotion because it always comes out wrong and does more harm than good. Once she's on a verbal roll, however, there's no shutting her up and she will tell you about every corner of the emotions, their cause, what needs to happen...etc. usually long after the last person has gone to bed.
COMMENT: Molly has made some progress in this subject. She can now listen properly in a face to face conversation and even refrain from interrupting if the person is reasonably interesting. She is still prone to bouts of over-excitement where she becomes fired up and can't help herself from frenzied verbals shooting out with extensive arm waving and repetition to really make a point. She's good at listening if someone is upset although she often steals their thunder by sobbing harder and louder than the person telling her their woes. Over empathising is a particular talent. She still can't listen to the radio or stories - too prone to wandering off into her own thoughts -no progress there.
SKILL: Giving compliments
COMMENT: To those she loves, she overdoes the compliments. They are three thousand-a-penny. To those she likes, there's a fair amount going on too. To those she's not overly fond of, she does try to find compliments for. She knows it's what 'big' people do. She also occasionally suffers from compliment misunderstandings where she has, with love and affection, given a compliment but because she has this accidental way of finding funny and bizarre ways of saying things and because she's tricky for some people, the compliment has been received as an insult. Imagine that.
SKILL: Being determined
COMMENT: If Molly is interested in something, best to step aside. A momentum made up of enthusiasm, single focus, impatience and absolutely determination will hurtle at the target and anyone in the vicinity is likely to lose a limb - at least.
SKILL: Asking for help if you need it
COMMENT: Molly seems to think she can sort everything out herself and does not like to ask for help. However, her main carer, Andy, does automatically provide a lot of help and thus Molly remains alive.
COMMENT: Molly is not overly good at this as she is quick to find an elaborate vision of how she'd like things to be and feels disappointed if the result is anything less than her vision. However, she can let go of the vision from between her teeth, feel a little deflated and then remuster more enthusiasm for a new vision - EVEN if someone else painted it. However, beyond the vision stage, Molly loses interest.
SKILL: Positive thinking
COMMENT: Molly is very good at this in theory and knows that it's a helpful thing. This does not, however, prevent her from fits of abandonning her ideals and feeding her dark side from deep pits now and then.
Could do better
To be completed by Claire Potter (Special needs co-ordinator)