I'm not overly systematic when it comes to remembering birthdays and sending cards. I never have been. If you invite me to your party I will remember to bring a card, maybe a gift and a bottle of something but without the prompt of attendance somewhere, it's a bit hit and miss. That's not to say I don't love the people I forget to send birthday cards to. I have lots of love to give. Sometimes people reel from the overbearing nature of it.
My 'giving gestures' are a little random but when you get them, you usually know. Here are just a few examples:
Whether it's for a wedding, retirement or a birthday celebration, I love to make loads of badges. I print them, laminate them, cut them out and put pins (or cotton for posh wedding frocks) on the back. At some point during the celebration, I issue one to everyone present so that suddenly there is a sea of badges. Here are some examples.
Mr Payne retired from school and I made a badge for all the pupils in the school.
Papier Mache Models
I have made models of several couples. Sadly I rarely took photos of them. But here is one example of my sister and her husband.
When I get a wedding list, I go to the shop where the list resides, shuffle around and feel very uninspired. I just cannot bring myself to buy plates or bins - however much the person might want them. So I leave the shop empty handed and do something else. I have made banners, made highly decorated wedding books and got everyone to sign it at the celebration etc but my favourite alternative was tea towels!!! I bought six good quality white tea towels from a posh shop. I (and I had some help from Andy Chap and my wonderfully vibrant friend Dayna) then fabric painted six different artists' versions of the happy couple to be. I remember Miro (easy), Van Gough, Kandinsky...and some others. But the favourite, that is still in a frame in this friend's house was Gustav Klimt - the kiss. I painted the couple into that picture. Sadly I have not got a photo of it - but I might try and remember to get one.
And then there are things I write...
Like REFERENCES (click on it to enlarge - should you want to read it)
I wrote this for my teacher friend of anal retention fame. He got the job.
This was for Andy Chap. It's pretty accurate. (click on it to enlarge - should you want to read it)
QUIZZES TO CHECK OUT NEW PARTNERS - one such example
QUIZ FOR WHOLE SCHOOL - at retirement leaving do
Given to and completed by a couple of friends when they went to Spain.
I mostly make cards for people. I feel a bit of a failure if I have bought one. Proper grown ups get 'pretty' cards but I have done a fair few that could be described as bizarre - like the Andy Kirkham Activity centre card (based on a kiddies' toy), some strange things popping-up in cards, or story books of a person's life 'as I see it'. etc
In fact my computer is full of silly stories, wedding speeches, silly identity cards, baby book innards and other ridiculous things I have spent my time creating for others. So if I forget to send you a card, it's probably because it's someone else's turn to have a big gesture mustered up for them. Count your blessings.